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Being a Mom Makes Me A Better Worker

Posted on: April 29, 2011

Last week I shared some reasons why working makes me a better Mother.  That coin has two sides, so this week I’m going to share the other perspective.  I’m not saying motherhood will get you promoted,  (see my previous rant about Equal Pay Day for more on that topic) but I do believe that the transformation of motherhood can help you succeed in all areas of your life.  Here are just a few:

  1. I can relate better to my co-workers.  Depending on where you work, a majority of your colleagues are probably parents themselves.  Once you have kids you are better able to spot the bleary-eyed glaze that follows a night spent in a steamed bathroom fighting off the croup.  Empathy makes for better relationships.
  2. Improved patience.  Parenting is the ultimate test of patience.  Patience is a lot like a muscle.  If you don’t stretch it regularly it won’t be able to perform at its best.  Kids are good at pushing those buttons.  Embrace it
  3. Managing multiple priorities.  The frequent crises of motherhood teach triage techniques that can be used to sort through seemingly impossible crises at work.  Figure out lost causes and dump them, then focus on using your limited resources in the most effective manner as possible to reduce further casualties.
  4. Childbirth is empowering.   Birthmothers often walk away from the birth experience with tremendous pride and renewed appreciation for their endurance and will power.  It is a true gift to create a new life, and realize you are more powerful/strong/resilient than you ever thought you were in the process.
  5. Suck it up and deal, baby.  Kids don’t care if you have a migraine, a yeast infection, or walking pneumonia.  Above all else, you have got to make sure they are OK, or find another reasonable adult to do that for you.  I am much less of a pansy about my little nuisance health issues now than I ever was, and that is probably because I’ve actually been forced to test what happens when you pretend you’re not sick.  (Here’s a hint:  most of the time, you get over it.)
    Important note about #6:  This does not apply to men.  Upon first sniffle, men revert into little boys who need their Mommy – and by the way, that’s you, too.
  6. Appreciation for praise.  Kids love it when you praise them, and their outward responses encourage adults to do it more.  For some reason, adults find it awkward to praise other adults. Parenting reminds us that adults need it, too.  Since I’ve had kids I tell people when I am proud of what they did, and try to recognize people as much as possible.



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